Not financial – but personal – bullies are cowards – never let them win!!

Amanda Todd’s recent suicide struck home for me. Then the utlimate in cowardly, vile bullying took place – apparently other students and classmates vilified her after her death. I say “apparently” because police have not yet tracked down who made the posts – but regardless of who made them, they deserve the harshest punishment available – and our laws badly need strengthing in this area.

Also police need expanded powers, under proper control of course, to use every means available – electronic and otherwise – to track these people down. The BCCLA and similar groups always seem to forget the victims – they worry more about protecting the guilty than ensuring they don’t EVER repeat their offences. Put your focus where it belongs for once! Then our judges have to have the guts, courage and some reasonable level of sanity and common-sense, to impose first punishment – and later some rehabilitation – but punishment comes first.

Amanda is nor the first, and unfortunately she will not be the last. Why? Because not all parents care about what their children are doing. Not all parents bother to teach their children right from wrong. Not all schools (teachers, principals, staff – everyone) watch for signs of bullying and deal HARSHLY and SEVERELY with the bullies involved. Not all parents bother to learn about bullying – or if their child is either a bully or a victim until it is too late. Not all parents supervise everything their children do on-line – on the web, twitter, social media, flash-mobs, etc. Not all parents bother to learn about cyber-bullying.

Not all law enforcement and other first-responders have been trained to identify signs of bullying – either victim or perpetrator. Not all medical people have been trained to identify bullying and the resulting physical and mental damage and eventual destruction, victims will face.

Politicians can’t agree on the time of day or the shape of the table to use for a meeting – but can’t – for ONCE – they stop petty party-politics and do something for victims of bullying? Can’t they for once deal forcefully with those who bully others?

Political will is lacking – or rather the will to deal with the problem outside petty politics is lacking. Everyone wants to be seen as the champion but no-one bothers to act. Committees don’t solve problems. Inquiries don’t solve problems. Studies don’t solve problems – and neither do working groups or any other such actions.

This needs to the part of ALL school curriculums starting in elementary school – regardless of religion, private or public schools. There are bullies of every race, colour, creed, religion, faith, political stripe and sex. There also needs to be consistency in dealing with bullies. Leaving it up to each organisation or school or school district to set their own “remedies” is not the answer. And regardless of legislation, it is time to “name names” for many reasons, not the least of which is to ensure there are consequences for actions and that potential victims can be protected. Let’s refocus our energies on victims and rehabilitate the offenders second.

The effects of bullying last the rest of your life – they affect your personal life, your relationships, your career – and they do impact on both mental and physical well-being. A victim never recovers – just as the victims of child-abuse, pedophilia, etc. – NEVER completely recover. They are changed people – forever. I know first hand – I was bullied for 5 years in junior and senior high school – and it affects me today.

Ian Whiting

Ian R. Whiting CD, CFP, CLU, CH.F.C., FLMI (FS), ACS, AIAA, AALU With more than 40-years of experience in the industry, Ian has qualified 3 times for MDRT, completed LUATC in 1979, the LUAC Financial Planning Skills Course and attended numerous Schools in Agency Management and Sales Management through LIMRA. He obtained his CLU in 1987 while also completed his IFIC qualification and completed his Fellowship in the Life Management Institute with a specialty in Financial Services in 1988. In 1989, he completed qualifications for his Chartered Financial Consultant designation. In 1992, he qualified as an Associate of the Academy of Life Underwriters (Head Office underwriter qualification) and in 1993 he completed his Associate, Customer Service designation program through LOMA. In 1997, he qualified as a CFP and also completed his courses and exams to obtain the Associate, Insurance Agency Administration designation. In 1999, he completed the study and examinations to qualify as a Trading Officer, Partner and Director for Mutual Funds with the BC Securities Commission. As a result, he is also qualified as both a Branch Compliance Manager and Head Office/Provincial Compliance Officer. He served for nearly 18 years with the Canadian Forces (Air) Reserve (reaching the rank of Captain) primarily working with Air Cadets and was award the Canadian Forces Decoration (CD) in 1982. Long known as a maverick and forward thinker in the financial services world, Ian enjoys the challenge of learning new material and planning for the future evolution of his chosen profession.

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