Managing The Cap

Cowboys owner Jerry Jones: “Free-agency busts hindered Super Bowl chances”

Jerry’s problem is just like yours. Previous commitments limit your ability to accomplish what you would like in the future.

The headline was atop a recent Sports Illustrated story. NFL teams, like the Dallas Cowboys, are subject to a salary cap. If a high salary player does not perform up to expectations their salary still counts and there is less money for other players that might contribute. It limits flexibility and the chance to improve. Poorly managed salary cap issues have doomed the success of more than one team.

The effect is exactly the same in your household. Everyone has a budget cap. If you exceed it, you will be punished. Maybe not immediately, but soon. You reduce your flexibility and your ability to control your future when your cap space is used up by previous commitments that no longer contribute value.

Things like credit card payments for clothes or vacations or furniture. There is also the extra amount you pay to lease a high-end car instead of something more modest. Same with bigger mortgage payments on a bigger house.

When you commit to make payments in the future, you have committed part of your budget cap and that amount is no longer available for anything else. If people made explicit statements about how that worked there would be fewer problems. Something like, “If I spend this extra $400 a month for this car that I like instead of the one that would serve well, I will need to give up golf club fees to make it work.”

The more likely response is to borrow more to make the payments or to save less. Either way you are paying for the present with future dollars. Someday the future will appear and there will be too little money to pay for things that matter.

It is the old story. You can only spend a given dollar once. If you commit future dollars to payments, they are spent today even though they may not come out of your bank account for a while.

jerry-jones-1024x856Financial planning is about balancing the present with the future. Part of the present is paying for the past. Balancing is not an easy task and it is one that requires great discipline.

Just like Jerry Jones, though, you cannot have control of your future if you commit to things that should not have been part of your life. Flexibility is an important asset. Do not give it up easily.

Don Shaughnessy is a retired partner in an international public accounting firm and is presently with The Protectors Group, a large personal insurance, employee benefits and investment agency in Peterborough Ontario.

Who’s Handling the Family Finances?

I met with Amy (not her real name) the other day who told me she managed her finances perfectly well while she was single. Once she married, she agreed to let her husband handle the family finances. Now facing divorce, she found herself in financial difficulty because of her husband’s spending habits. She regretted not paying attention to the family finances  during their marriage and had to deal with  the added  guilt of not being aware of key financial information when the marriage finally ended.

When we marry, most coupled agree to a practical division of labour and responsibilities.  Each partner takes on specific “jobs” throughout the marriage. One may take out the garbage and handles the carpooling duties while the other spouse agrees to prepare meals and pays the bills. As we’re creatures of habit, we tend to keep those same “jobs” for our entire married life.  If it hasn’t been your “job” to deal with the finances, it is imperative that you stay in touch with the family finances regardless.

How do you do that?

You should attend meetings with accountants, financial planners, insurance agents to develop their own relationships with these key advisors. Too often I hear women say  “I ‘ve never even met the insurance agent” or “I’m finding it difficult to get information from the accountant since he and my spouse are old friends and golf together every weekend.”

You should look over monthly bank statements and credit card bills even if you are not the partner actually making the payments.

Pam (not her real name) found a lack of her own active credit history worked against her as she was offered high rate cards with small lines of credit when she applied for a card on her own after her husband left. You should be sure that the credit card you are using has been set up in your own name and not an account in your husband’s name with you being simply an authorized user. 

Couples should keep three bank accounts (his, hers and ours) and maintain separate credit cards.

Couples are divorcing at later ages.  Many married women don’t make retirement savings a priority. If your husband is the main wage earner, you  trust him to save for  your retirement.  Clare (not her real name) assumed the Spousal RRSP her husband set up belonged to him and not her and wasn’t clear that he hadn’t been adding to her Spousal RRSP for awhile.  You need to understand that once you’re on your own, you need to make saving for retirement a priority.

Looking over a spouse’s shoulder from time to time is important even if you trust they’re doing a good job.

My divorce will cost what?

I was recently at a lunch meeting with other divorce professionals… and the topic of costs of divorce came up. We all face the “what do you charge and how much will it cost question” that all potential clients ask.  People facing divorce all have some preconceived ideas based on a friend’s experience, hearsay, media reports etc. Most people believe their own situation is not a complicated one and should fit in the “average cost range”.   As experienced professionals, we know that few divorcing clients fit the “average model” and the “cheapest price’ may not be that cheap in the long run. You only have one chance at a settlement which will affect you for the rest of your life. You want to be sure to get it right.

So how do divorce costs pile up?

The choice you make in how you will arrive at a settlement agreement directly affects the cost.

A do-it-yourself scenario where you work everything out between yourselves may be very effective and least costly but may best work in situations where there are no children, few assets and fewer complications.

Mediation allows couples to come up and come to agreement mainly on their own with a mediator who facilitates with the couple in reaching an agreement. Couples share the cost of the mediator. Each spouse in turn may have their own lawyer providing independent legal advice as required.

Collaborative Practice involves clients each with their own lawyer and the possible involvement of other professionals such as family specialists and financial specialists all working together to reach an enduring settlement.   A Collaborative divorce is a holistic approach where each professional charges at their own rate and divorcing couples have control over how much involvement from each professional there may be depending on their own  unique needs.

Traditional litigation can be costly if negotiations fail and end up in court.  Trial costs can be  enormous.

Legal fees represent only part of the costs. Other factors can impact the total cost of your divorce, such as:

  • The nature and complexity of the couples’ situation itself.
  • Your lack of financial knowledge or familiarity with your own finances
  • The need for involving other professionals to assist with valuations of such things as home, other properties, pensions, businesses,  stock options, tracing assets.
  • Your emotional state which may affect the duration and cost the time involved in reaching a settlement
  • Your decision to fire lawyers or lawyer’s decision to fire you.

The “what ifs” are the most painful and avoidable elements in divorce everyone should face head on. You should embrace the opportunity to pay for this knowledge to have peace of mind post-divorce. A divorce financial planner is the expert you want and need during divorce to make strategic recommendations in a cost-efficient manner no matter what method you choose to deal with your divorce.

The expertise of divorce financial planners is essential during divorce: To help budget for this process; source funds to pay for the divorce; educate clients and professionals about complex financial issues; analyze choices with greater expertise and less expensively than lawyers; produce precise analysis for desired outcomes; and provide financial counseling to clients post divorce. This is what you get when you pay for it!

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Dis-Orientation: Back to School and Divorce

Traditionally, autumn is a boom season for divorce, particularly for couples, who wait out the summer at the cottage before returning home to cut their marital ties. Many couples considering splitting decide to wait until after the holidays to break the news to their children. How are these parents going to approach their separation or divorce – and how will it affect their children?  
Obviously school-year separations can be difficult for school-age children. Parents need to bend over backwards to minimize the changes and transitions in their child’s life so as to keep school-related schedules, after-school activities, playtime with friends and other routines as much the same as possible.  

Parents with university aged children face the additional burden of having kids who are moving away from home.  The added stress of dealing with ever increasing tuition costs and related school expenses makes divorce at this stage more complex.

As couples work through their separation agreement, they should be aware of the many financial issues that affect them and their children beyond the traditional items of child support.

They should be considering such things as:

  • Is there enough savings set aside for tuition and room& board expenses
  • How will any shortfall be funded by each parent?
  • Who manages any RESP plan set up for the student?
  • What additional expenses will students/parents incur as a result of parents living apart
  • Who will benefit from any tuition tax credit available to transfer to a parent

Sending kids off to university is an exciting and challenging time for both students and parents alike.  Dealing with divorce at this stage in your family’s life adds additional challenges.   If you need help sorting through the financial issues around these issues, we may be in the position to help.

 

Facing divorce. . .Should I sell the house now?

 If you believe that we are facing a “real estate bubble” ,  the decision of what to do with your home   is  challenging.. sell now and wait to buy if/when prices go down?

 What does that mean to you if you’re someone facing divorce today?  Should you consider selling quickly to take advantage of the market now?  Some people believe they should sell now and split the money and each buy something  on you own before prices climb even further.  

Many couples  have to make  tough decisions  about their home sometimes before they have a final separation agreement in place.

Many people are carrying large debt loads and are shocked to see how much they in fact have left over  after paying off all their debts.  In calculating the cost of a new home, you must take into account such things as legal fees, moving costs, utility set up fees,  condo fees, etc

The big expense that buyers overlook, however,  is land transfer tax.  And if you  considering buying in the GTA, there is an additional land transfer tax assessed.  Most realtors and mortgage brokers websites have a land transfer tax calculator. If you can’t  locate one easily, let me know and I’ll do the  calculation for you.

For most couples, the marital home is your  largest asset. You may want to look at all your options and get  financial advice before moving on!

When You are the One Paying Support

According to a recent study done by Prudential Insurance in the U.S. of  the 1,140 women and 604 men surveyed,  it was reported that 22% of women ( married or with a partner)made more money than their husband or partner.

This economic statistic is certainly a factor why women increasingly are paying support. However, in our society, women seem surprised to have to pay support even if they earn more. As the financial gender gap continues to narrow, an increasing number of women involved in a divorce must confront the possibility of paying support to their spouse. (AKA, “Manimony”).

I have assisted many divorcing women who face the prospect of paying support. Women who have worked hard building careers, taking care of children, dealing with aging parents, feel that they have contributed more than their fair share while married.

This also means that women are increasingly responsible for their finances and investment decisions. This is an area where women have less confident in their knowledge of finances. This adds addition pressure and concerns for women who have to  deal with ongoing payments along with  managing their current lifestyle and worrying about retirement.

Are you someone who makes more money than your spouse? If you found yourself in this situation, how did you deal with this issue?

Grey Divorce Challenges

According to the most recent statistics available from  Statistics Canada (2008) , there were 852 divorces where both partners were 65 and older.  Based on my experience and the clients I see, this trend is growing.  When divorcing after a long term marriage or at an age where retirement is closing in, such  ‘grey divorces” pose unique challenges.

If one spouse stayed at home while the other worked or has retired, it is difficult to face the financial realities of dividing assets and debts as well as  splitting retirement income. Many people assume that after divorce, they expect to keep same standard of living through the division of assets and spousal support. The ex-spouse receiving support may have to eventually  earn his or her  own income. Finding employment can be very difficult in the current economy, especially for those over age 50.

After years  of marriage, divorce  at this stage of life can be a  financial as well as am emotional  shock. Couples facing divorce  at older ages are more likely to suffer from medical problems,  and complicated family issues. These issues require careful attention, management and support. Working through a settlement outside the courts, through mediation or collaborative divorce  allows “grey divorcing” couples the  opportunity to look at their futures and create a settlement that can meet their original retirement plans.

Since most of the settlement issues are financial, working  with financial professionals  who specialize in divorce is critical.  They can help identify all assets, debts and income from the marriage.  They can help develop realistic post divorce budgets. They can help couples, working together with their  lawyers/mediators,  make a plan to match the divorce outcome to  their desired lifestyle after divorce and into retirement.

Get Real: Divorce is a business

Have you put aside the romantic notion that love conquers all…No matter how intense your emotions, it’s important to remember that ending a marriage is in fact a business deal. Those who ignore the business aspects of divorce do so at their own peril, as that divorce statistic shows. Many people seemed shocked by the advice that women and men should prepare themselves financially before ending a marriage.

Here are (3) important business affairs that required your attention:

1. Pull your credit report.Pull your credit report before the divorce so that anything in dispute can be resolved before the divorce is final.

2. Open individual bank, credit card and brokerage accounts.
You also need to do this before the breakup is official. It will be easier to get a credit card and bank account in your own name while you are still married. This is especially important for a woman who has never established credit in her own name.

3. Close all joint accounts.Closing shared accounts is a critical step and one that is too often overlooked. Cancel the accounts and be sure to request that they report each account as “closed by customer” to the credit bureaus. Divorce can take time; pay off share debt with joint assets if possible.

Since money is the number one cause of divorce, it’s safe to assume that splitting the financial sheets won’t be easy. Have you considered all of the financial ramifications in your situation?

DIVORCE TALKS – GREY DIVORCE

For many people, the thought of divorce is overwhelming. Not surprising when you consider that almost all married people centre their lives around their spouse, their children and their home. Divorce changes all of that. It depends on how you approach the situation, who you talk to, and how motivated you are to protect the dignity, integrity and long term interests of your family.

Divorce Talks is a series of live sessions for people who are thinking about, or in the process of, getting a divorce. Mutual Solutions, an association between Eva Sachs and Marion Korn, a family law lawyer, hosts every Divorce Talks session. These sessions help someone considering separation gain an understanding of the decisions they will need to make, and how to move to a positive outcome for everyone. Knowing what must happen, what can happen, and what your options are will make a huge difference in the outcome for you and your family.

Our next Divorce Talks session is Tues July 17th where we will be discussing the unique issues for couples separating later in life.  For the new generation of   ”empty – nesters”, divorce is increasingly common. Though overall divorce rates have declined since spiking in the 1980s, there has been a rise in “grey divorce”. The issues are significantly different  for someone in their 50’s or older than someone in their 30’s or 40’s.

If you or someone you know, is considering a divorce, join us for a conversation. Eva and Marion will talk about the things that matter the most when thinking about separation and divorce – finances, kids, and your future.

For details, go to http://mutualsolutions.ca/divorce-talk/

 

Now that I’m divorcing …where did the money go?

Figuring out who will pay the bills each month is an important conversation most couples have when they are  first  married.  It seems that who ever takes on that  assignment  keeps  that role  for most of the marriage. However, if you’re not paying the bills, you don’t know where the  money is going.  If one person is making most or all of the money, does that person get to make most or all of the financial decisions?

At a minimum you may want to have regular household meetings complete with  some bookkeeping software  or other spreadsheets so that the person writing the checks and paying the bills  can keep the other one up to speed. It may be very useful to  handing the   family finance controls back and forth at the beginning of each year.

Looking at bills can be a headache, but there’s no better way to get a sense of your family finances.  If you’ve  done that during your marriage and  now find yourself facing divorce, you at least know where the money’s been going.    Coming up with a measurement of  lifestyle  while married is a starting point  for  discussions around what you might require to maintain “similar” lifestyle once your divorced and on your own.