We saved $600K for retirement but my struggling sister is asking for money. How do we help her without putting our future at risk?

Then his 77-year-old sister Dorothy called. She and her husband Sean have been living on their Canada Pension Plan (CPP) and Old Age Security (OAS) benefits for years. They remortgaged their home to cover accessibility retrofits after Sean’s declining health introduced mobility issues. They have $25,000 left in their savings and Dorothy is terrified of losing her home after Sean dies.

She’s asking Phil for money. Phil cares about Dorothy and feels bad about the situation she and her husband are in — but he also cares about his family and maintaining the positive retirement trajectory he’s on.

Here’s what’s at stake, and how to think it through.

The retirement savings gap is real — and growing

Dorothy’s situation isn’t unusual. A 2025 survey by CPP Investments found that 59% of Canadians are afraid of outliving their savings (1). Meanwhile, a 2025 HOOPP survey found that 44% of Canadians put aside some of their earnings for savings within the last year, whereas almost half (49%) have not (2).

Government benefits help, but they don’t go far. In 2026, the average CPP monthly payment for a new recipient 65+ is $925.35 and the maximum OAS amount is $743.05 — which combined, total roughly $20,000 annually (3) (4). For someone like Dorothy, managing a mortgage and medical expenses on that amount alone is not particularly feasible.

Watching a sibling struggle in that position is hard. But before Phil does anything, he needs to get clear on one thing: Helping Dorothy can’t come at the cost of his or his wife’s own retirement security.

Talk to your spouse first

In Canada, provincial law governs how assets are treated between spouses, and the rules vary across jurisdictions. While most provinces provide for the equal division of assets acquired during a marriage — including the family home, bank accounts, and registered accounts — this does not necessarily mean those assets are held in joint title (5). In many cases, property registered in one spouse's name alone is still subject to equalization on separation or death under provincial family property legislation. Quebec operates under a distinct civil law framework, where the default matrimonial regime (partnership of acquests) allows each spouse to manage their own property independently during the marriage, with sharing occurring only at the regime's end.

Regardless of how assets are titled, any large financial decision — such as gifting money to a sibling — affects both spouses' financial interests and warrants a full conversation before acting.

That conversation should cover a few things:

1. How helping Dorothy might affect their estate plan and what their children stand to inherit
2. Whether any money should be given as an outright gift or a loan — and what a loan might do to the relationship if Dorothy can’t repay it
3. What the maximum amount would be after stress-testing their retirement projections with a financial planner

It’s also important to remember that spousal financial rights are protected in Canada. RRSPs, Registered Retirement Income Funds (RRIFs) and life insurance policies typically name spouses as primary beneficiaries for a reason (6). Before redirecting any of that toward a sibling, Phil needs to be sure his wife is fully on board and that their own plan is solid.

Have a clear, honest conversation with your sibling

Once Phil and Susan have agreed on how to move forward, they need to have a candid conversation with Dorothy — not only about money, but about covering all of her options to get help.

Cash gifts exchanged between family members aren’t taxed in Canada like they are in the U.S., so there’s no annual limit for gifting cash and no form to fill out with the Canada Revenue Agency (CRA) (7). But one important question is whether a cash transfer is really the most useful thing Phil can provide.

A few questions Phil can go over with Dorothy include:

• Has she explored all the available CPP survivor benefits she’ll be entitled to after Sean dies?
• Does she understand what Guaranteed Income Supplement (GIS) she may qualify for as a lower-income senior?
• Has she spoken to a financial counsellor about her options?

Having clarity around her understanding can help Phil decide his next best move.

Think beyond cash

Sometimes the most valuable thing you can give a struggling sibling isn’t money — it’s access to good advice.